A no worry challenge

Take a minute to read my London-based pal Paola’s 30 day no worry challenge .  It’s short and worth it.  I wish I could take credit for her idea because it’s so simple and brilliant.

Don’t just read it though.  Try it.

Pick one thing, whether big or small, that worries you.  First, if there is something you can do about it, look at your options and take action on it.  Once action is taken, that issue usually doesn’t need to be worried about.  Often the action of simply making a decision helps us feel more in control.  Second, as she suggests, accept that you will be able to handle whatever situation comes your way.

I usually find that when I face what I’m worried about it’s not as big of a deal as it had become in my mind.  The worst case outcomes rarely come to pass.

The beautiful benefit that results is that your mind now has some space to think of creative solutions and create a wonderful vision of future possibilities.  One that is based on peace of mind instead of worry.

Don’t let the 30 day challenge intimidate you.  Do it one day.  Whenever that topic tries to get back in, remind yourself that today you are not worrying about that.  Once you make some progress, it will become easier to control your worries instead of letting them control you.

This works for me.  Give it a shot and let me know your results.

Barry is a licensed Massage Therapist at Main Street Massage in Hudson, Ohio.  Find out more about him, his business, and massage at www.HudsonMassageTherapy.com

Deal with it and be done with it – Part 2

Part 1 discussed primarily the actions of others that disturb our peace of mind.  I hope you have been able to practice that and it has helped you move forward.

There is somebody else who does things that bother you.  You may wonder why that person does what they do, and when they are going to learn. You can remember loads of mistakes that they made.

It’s you.

Since nobody is perfect, you are going to make mistakes.  It’s all right; it usually means you are attempting something.

The person you need to forgive the most usually is you.

Honestly, the person most people think about the most is themselves. I want a cookie.  I’m thirsty.  I’m tired.  I feel great.  I still want a cookie.

Unless you did something memorably wrong, you are probably the only one who remembers or cares about the event.  We put up with and overlook the mistakes and quirks of our family and friends, and they do the same for you.  If it’s not somebody who cares about you, they have probably already forgotten about whatever happened.

Now, if you need to make something right, do so, and the sooner the better.  If you treated somebody poorly or didn’t do what you should have, talk to them.  Offer an apology for it.  Chances are that the other party will be glad you came to them and your relationship in the future will be better now that it free of the weight of the past.

I have made so many mistakes and done so many dumb things, but I have found that the people who care about me still accept me.  If I’m good enough for those whom I care about I should be good enough for me also.

There is much, much more that can be said about this topic, but let’s keep it to the main point.  Deal with yourself and be done with it.  Learn and grow from your past and look forward to a future with more joy.  It  is definitely worth the time and effort.

Learn to forgive yourself and feel your stress level begin to drop, and your happiness start to rise.

“Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth.

Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life.”

– Joan Lunden

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

– Lewis B. Smedes

Barry is a licensed Massage Therapist at Main Street Massage in Hudson, Ohio.  Find out more about him, his business, and massage at www.HudsonMassageTherapy.com